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5 beginner-friendly bdsm accessories and how to use them

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BDSM interests a lot of people, but sometimes it can be overwhelming and uncomfortable to figure out where to start. And there is a lot of cheesy stuff out there to distract. That’s why I wanted to create a quick and practical guide on some easy-to-use toys and accessories.

Before I dive into some suggestions, I want to make it crystal clear that the first and most important thing to remember about bondage and any BDSM play is that it’s between consenting and informed adults. So if you are thinking about bringing any of these toys into the bedroom, make sure you have consent from your partner first.

Satin Mask

A simple satin mask can do wonders for creating thrilling excitement. Blindfolding creates a sense of mystery and heightens the experience, especially when it’s used in a threesome—you can’t be sure of who is doing what, and that can make your imagination run wild.

Bondage Tape

This is a fun, easy and quick way to get into bondage. Bondage tape is a non-sticky PVC tape, which means it only sticks to itself—so there is no hair pulling or sticky residue. It’s easy to wrap around ankles, tie someone to a chair, or use as a gag.

Bondage Rope

I prefer hemp rope to regular cord, as it’s a natural fiber with a low burn rate. That means when you are pulling the rope across someone’s skin it’s not going to give them rope burn. Thick cotton or silk is also great for bondage, since neither material slides or moves around too much once you tie it off. But if you want to tie someone up, make sure you follow these rules to keep things safe and fun.

Handcuffs

Restraining someone with rope is a good way to start with bondage, but if you don’t want to bother with the tying and just want to handcuff someone, there are a few variations. You can trye metal, leather, velcro or rope handcuffs. If you go the rope route, check out my guide on how to tie handcuffs out of rope in this blog post. Just always make sure there is enough room between the cuffs and your partner’s skin to slip at least two fingers to avoid compressing a nerve.

Under the Bed Restraints

The most complicated of the bunch, under the bed restraints are a safe and fun way to transform your bed for bondage play. The restraint straps fit under any size mattress or frame without hooks. Use them to restrain your partner’s arms and legs from either side of the bed.

*Bonus: Safety scissors. It’s important to keep a pair of safety scissors handy whenever you are using restraints or rope, in case you need to quickly cut your partner free.

The above list is a fun start to BDSM and bondage. While we have linked to some online products, you can also stop by your local sex toy shop and talk to someone there. Usually they are informed and can give you some recommendations suited to your exact needs. Have fun and be safe!