5 signs your relationship is failing—and what to do about it

November 14, 2016

Everyone knows relationships are a rollercoaster ride, but it’s hard to tell when it’s the right time to get off. A little bickering with your partner could be a symptom of a few too many weekends of “Netflix and chill” or, it could be a sign that your relationship is failing. Here are a couple of tell-tale signs to look for when you’re on the outs and what to do about them.

You Aren’t Having Fun Together

This is one of the more depressing signs of a failing relationship, but also one of the easiest to resolve. Instead of trying to relive your most memorable dates, try something new or challenging. Putting yourselves in an uncomfortable situation (partner yoga, anyone?) can bring you and your S/O closer together or, at the very least, get the two of you giggling again.

You Feel Insecure

We all feel a little self doubt sometimes, especially when it comes to our relationships. If you’re feeling insecure around your S/O, make sure you’re communicating what you want clearly. If you still feel like you’re not getting enough validation from your partner, maybe there’s something else going on that the two of you need to work on together. If you’re still feeling down it might be time to re-focus on yourself. Never forget who’s really number one.

You're Interested in Other People

As it turns out, being interested in other people doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t care about your partner anymore. We all have desires and we need to address them. If you feel confident in other areas of your relationship, this could be a good time to suggest opening it up to other people. Relationships are more than just sex, after all.

You Don’t Have Any Interest in Having Sex

A low libido isn’t only a cause of personal concern in your relationship, but can also be damaging for your partner who might feel insecure or unwanted as a result. While our desire for sex is often intertwined with our emotional psyche, it could also be the case that things are just getting a little boring in the bedroom. Now could be the right time to try and spice things up. Take a trip to the sex shop or watch some porn together—inspiration is everything.

You’re Not Excited to See Each Other Anymore

This is the make or break of most relationships. Needing a little time to yourself is normal, especially if you’re an introvert. But when you stop feeling like ever spending time with your partner, that’s usually a sure sign things are heading south. Here’s your chance to take the first step: suggest spending some time apart, dip your feet in the water. It’s going to be okay no matter what.

While the romantics among us think true love lasts forever, not all relationships are worth saving. At the end of the day, communication is key. Talk it out with your partner and see how they are feeling, too. Chances are that the both of you are suffering from a little insecurity. If you both still care about each other and want to be together, there’s plenty you can do. Trying new things together and keeping the communication lines open can help a lot. But if you can’t reignite the spark, then it may be time to move on.