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BDSM Basics: How to Flog Someone

Flogging, or flagellation, is an ancient, pain-inducing ritual characterized by the routing lashing of a sub (or slave) by a dominant master. Like any form of BDSM, flogging is an exercise in care, patience and above all, consent.

What You'll Need

Traditionally flogging is done with a leather whip. These range from single, sharp tailed batons to whips with plenty of thick leather strands. While a fuller whip might seem intimidating, it delivers a softer blow, making it the perfect tool for newbies and their partners.

If you’re not sure exactly what you’re looking for, check in with a staffer at your local sex shop. They should be able to help you make the right choice. Not ready to invest yet? You can always start with spanking, and see how you both like it.

How to Flog Someone

A good flogger has rhythm. Sending the whip around at too fast or slow a speed can cause tangles and unintended blows. Mistakes happen and that’s okay, just remember to check in frequently and recognize when you’ve gone too far. Throw some role play in there if you feel like it—what is the sub being punished for?

Where to Aim

The center of the back is usually the main target for the flogger. You can also play with the thighs and buttocks, but keep in mind that these areas are smaller. That makes it hard to avoid wrapping, the unintended curling of the whip around to softer, more delicate portions of the body.

Advice for Doms

Any aspiring master knows that a good top is one who who takes care of their slave. This means checking in before, during and after play to make sure their partner is feeling ok and that the threshold of pain isn’t too high. Consider setting up a BDSM contract and make sure you’ve got some safe words and signals figured out before stuff gets going.

Advice for Subs

Like most forms of BDSM, flogging is all about the endorphins that are produced from the fight or flight response that arises when we experience pain. For slaves, punishment is pleasure, but it’s important to be aware of your limits. Masters are supposed to take control—but there’s a difference between being dominated and being abused. For more information click here.

What Happens After?

Aftercare is one of the most important parts of any BDSM play. Taking the time to coddle your slave after flogging reinstates intimacy between the two of you, and allows the sub to embrace the endorphins that arise after a little rough play.

Flagellation can be a lot more painful than people expect, so it’s important to always remember to check in with your partner. Pushing boundaries with experienced slaves is exciting but for those of you just getting started, take it slow. There will be plenty of time to get tough later on.

Looking for more tips on how to get into BDSM play? Check out our guide on how to tie someone up, or our list of beginner-friendly BDSM accessories.