Bondage basics: how to tie someone up

November 13, 2016
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Today, we want to introduce you to bondage. As it is a complicated and fun world to be in, we thought it be best to take it slow and start off with some of the basics.

The first and most important thing to remember about bondage and any BDSM play, in general, is that it’s between consenting and informed adults.

Which leads us to the second most important thing to remember: communication is the key to all kinky play. Before you dive into any bondage, make sure you and your partner talk about what’s about to go down. Talk about a yes/no/maybe list and have a safe word. For a lot of sub/dom scenarios, a traffic light system works, wherein “green” means everything’s fine, “yellow” means slow down and “red” means stop completely.

Make sure it’s crystal clear what you both like, what you want to try and what is off-limits. If it’s your first time tying someone up or being tied up, your reaction might not be what you expect, which is why taking it slow and checking in is important. The thing is, the goal is to have fun, but to do that, you need to stay safe and consensual.

The Materials

The next step is to know what materials to use. Try thick cotton or silk as rope for bondage (as neither material slides or moves around too much once you tie it off.) A more affordable alternative is solid-braid nylon rope in 7/16″ or 3/8″ in diameter. You can find this at any hardware store and it remains easy to untie even after being pulled around. Don’t use nylons or scarves or cheap handcuffs—they’ll cut off your circulation.

The Rules

If you want to tie someone up, follow these rules to keep things safe and fun.

Keep the rope loose enough that you can work two fingers between the rope and your partner’s skin. This is to ensure you do not cut off circulation.

Check circulation often by looking for discoloration or by them letting you know as soon as they feel pins and needles.

Know if your partner has any old injuries that could be triggered by being tied up.

Never tie up anyone in a way that restricts breathing.

Never leave someone tied up alone.

Keep a pair of safety scissors close in order to cut the rope if needed immediately.

Check in often and go slowly.

As this post is just covering the basics, we are only going to focus on rope handcuffs. Restraining someone with rope is a good way to start with bondage. As we mentioned before make sure there is enough room between the rope and your partner’s skin to slip at least two fingers worth and avoid compressing a nerve.

How To Tie a Basic Rope Handcuff

Here’s a video that explains how to tie a basic rope handcuff. For more info on other types of ways to restrain, check out Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes.

 

Now that you know the basics, enjoy ;)