The beginner’s guide to feeld terminology

November 13, 2016

So you are ready to get your toes wet in the exciting world of Feeld. Before you do, I want to teach you a few of the terms we use to identify ourselves (so it’s easy to find someone who’s into the same thing as you). Remember, Feeld is a safe space, so before you begin judging any of the following terms, please check your preconceptions and be open-minded. You never know—there might be something new that interests you!

These definitions aren’t static and often shift over time, but for now, let’s use them as a starting point:


You have sexual attraction towards both men and women, particularly those with an androgynous appearance.


You likely identify as genderqueer, and have sexual feelings towards male gendered individuals.


You don’t experience sexual attraction to anyone, but unlike celibacy, asexuality is simply a part of who you are, not what you choose.


While often a debated term, as an autosexual you don’t have any desire to have sex with another person but still would like to experience arousal. This can come in the form of masturbation or more formally an "arousal of sexual feeling without an external stimulus”.


You have a sexual attraction toward people of any sex or gender identity.


You feel sexual attraction only to people with whom you have an emotional bond.


Coined by Dan Savage, GGG is a term used to represent positive qualities of a good sexual partner. GGG stands for “good, giving, and game.” Think “good in bed,” “giving of equal time and equal pleasure,” and “game for anything—within reason.”


You identify yourself to be in the grey area between asexuality and sexuality. You do not normally experience sexual attraction, but do experience it sometimes, or experience sexual attraction but have a low sex drive.


You have sexual feelings towards a woman. (This term can be useful when describing the sexual orientation of an individual with a non-binary gender identity.)


If you see yourself as heteroflexible, you enjoy a small amount of homosexual activity within a primarily heterosexual orientation. You might more casually say that you are "mostly straight.”


Similar to “heteroflexible,” you’re “mostly homosexual” with the occasional heterosexual activity.


A threesome with a male, female, male combination. You would usually find this on dating sites or Craigslists ads.


Your sexual attraction is not based on biological sexes or gender identity, but rather in what people are like instead of what they are.


You are attracted to multiple biological sexes, gender identities and even sexual identities (eg. pansexual).


You are sexually attracted to a particular inanimate object.


You have a sexual attraction to non-binary identified individuals, which means you aren’t attracted to specific genitalia or the person’s assigned gender.

I hope that helped clear some things up, but if you’re still curious, here are a few more resources below.

The Asexuality Visibility & Education Network

Savage Lovecast