How to explore your sexuality in self-isolation

Sexuality is adaptive. Self-isolation does not have to mean the end of pleasure. During the Covid-19 restrictions and lockdown, the sex positive community has had to be extra creative, resilient and resourceful in order to remain safe, sane and active. For all Feeld members out there looking to continue exploring their sexuality online, we've put together some of the best ways to have fun safely with sex-positive humans around the globe

1. Explore safe sexting in our Staying at Home, Remote Trios and Fantasy Bunker cores

Feeld's location-based cores have (until now) been used to facilitate connections between humans in the same place. Since the Covid-19 outbreak, Feeld launched its first ever virtual location, the Staying at Home Core, for humans self-isolating at home. Quickly becoming Feeld's most popular location (surpassing London and New York), it was followed by Remote Trios (for couples and singles looking to play together) and Fantasy Bunker (for those ready to skip the small talk). From exploring 'FaceTime foreplay' to 'online orgasm control', these micro communities are all about new and experimental ways to play remotely.

To try them out, download the Feeld app, go to the Profile menu → Search Settings → Feeld Core Location. All three are free to use (and likely to give you more reasons to wash your hands). 

2. Touch, tease and flirt on our digital foreplay platform, For Play

For Play is the first of its kind ‘digital foreplay’ project seeking to redefine fluid sexuality and desire. Created in collaboration with Moniker, the Amsterdam-based design studio researching the social effects of technology, For Play is an interactive digital artwork that connects visitors in a sensory play space and lets them ‘touch’, tease and flirt with each other via obscured video chat. To try it out, just go on feeldforplay.com and rediscover touch virtually and safely.

3. Stay stimulated in more ways than one with erotic literature journal Mal

Mal is a print and digital journal publishing the most elegant incisive writing about sexuality and eroticism. Initiated by Feeld and launched in November 2018, it has published four issues to date, with contributions by luminaries like Chris Kraus, Sheila Heti, Bhanu Kapil, Anne Boyer and Eileen Myles, among others. Don't just take our word for it – Mal was also commended for Best Original Fiction in the 2019 Stack Magazine Awards and has partnered with ICA London, Serpentine Galleries and Tate Modern. You can read most of Mal's pieces online for free but for the full experience and a truly seductive object, check out their beautifully designed print issues.

4. Tune in to Feeld Talks

Our monthly event moves online in order to focus on the most relevant and pressing topics right now. Expect livestreamed panel discussions between sex-positive influencers from across the globe. The first one this month featured 8 sex-positive leaders from 5 different continents who will be talking about cyber sex and self-isolation. Watch the recap video on our YouTube channel and keep an eye on feeld.co/experiences for more details.

5. Check out online sex-positive community leaders and groups

There has been no better time to listen and learn from each other. Turning to our community and sex positive peers, we have rounded up the most exciting initiatives and platforms for staying connected without the need of hand sanitiser.

LVRSNFRNDS

LVRSNFRNDS host a weekly salon in the form of a members-only discussion group that can be accessed by Google Meet.

Lola Jean

Lola Jean is sex educator and sex-positive event curator sharing her experience on a range of topics, from squirting, to pegging, to porn. Check out her upcoming livestreams .

Crossbreed

Crossbreed is a queer, sex and kink positive party in London. Forced to postpone events for the foreseeable future, they have introduced their 'self-isolation pleasure packs' filled with sex-positive goodies for enhancing their members' newly digital sex lives. Keep an eye of their Instagram and grab yourself a pack for a chance to get a month's free Feeld Majestic Membership among other hot treats.

Misery

The mental health collective and sober club night prioritising queer, trans and non-binary PoC have turned their attention to cyber healing circles in order to offer much needed support to their community. Find out more about their next event.

CAMPerVAN

The travelling queer performance space takes over the cyber-sphere, broadcasting a panel discussion and a variety of performances from LGBTQ+ artists in self-isolation. Check out their open call for participants if you'd like to take part by reading a poem, lip synching to a track or serenading viewers.

Sex School

Sex School, the Berlin-based, sex-education platform is committed to normalising our right to access honest, unbiased sex education resources in a way that is approachable, relatable and diverse. Check out their great tutorials on everything from BDSM, consent, threesomes to hook-ups here.