You asked. She answered. Straight from backstage and onto the page, we have the hottest and wisest advice from an iconic pop music matriarch.
In the summer of 2025, Kesha released her first independent album, Period. The first song opens with this line:
“Freedom, I’ve been waiting for you.”
Kesha is a beloved pop star for many reasons—her style, skill, and songs are obviously highest on that list—but over the course of her career she has also demonstrated the grace and energy necessary for a woman to keep seeking self-actualization even while under a constant spotlight. Freedom doesn’t come for free, and once found it’s meant to be shared. Here, Kesha freely offers her wisdom and insights with Feeld members, who sent in their questions about all matters of the heart, big and small.
Painting by Jeanine Brito
Jake from Ontario asked: You have such great taste in cult media. What's an underrated film/album or other form of media that you feel resonates with the current climate and with your upcoming releases and your current vision? Also, marry me. As far as marriage goes, you can always propose to me this summer. I would love that… You never know unless you ask!
Jenni from Austin asked: If your libido had a theme song, what would it be, and when would it play?
Mattie from Jersey City asked: What are some ways to combat that special kind of "bi anxiety" as a woman trying to ask a girl out? I'm polyamorous; I have a boyfriend, but I get way more nervous even attempting to flirt with a girl. I'm not trying to discount anyone's experience (can you tell that people have tried to tell me that this is not a thing?), but I don't think there would be scores of memes about this issue if it weren't a somewhat shared experience. TLDR: bi girl dating/ flirting anxiety feels real for me. Do you have any tips on how to deal with it?
Queen from Brussels asked: I used to be very dominant in the bedroom, but it originated from the fact that I'm masc. I felt like I had to be. Now I'm exploring my sub side but my wife misses that dominant part of me. Yet whenever I try to be dominant, it falls flat and feels wrong, I can never go all the way. How can I start finding my way back to that dominant energy in a way that's healthy?
Timo from Portland, OR asked: I finally feel like I've healed, grown, and achieved enough stability that I'm ready for a partner again… while this country regresses into a terrifying kleptocratic-fascist celebration of cruelty. I am reminded of how nightmarish it is to fear for the safety of someone you love when economic, political, and societal breakdowns, plus climate catastrophe, are all serious realities to contend with. Is seeking a partner for the collapse a selfish desire, or is avoiding a partner depriving myself of the potential for a healthy, romantic connection [because of] my own fears about an unknown future?
Alayna from Australia asked: Hey queen, it’s diva-down modeover here. I just went through a break-up where neither of us wanted to do it, but my partner was in a mental health hellhole and not in the right mind for a relo. The chapter is closed for now, but maybe it will open again in the future when he’s better. My heart's broken to say the least. Any advice? Will we get back together, or do I need to move on?
Hi Jake,
While I’ve been preparing for this tour I’ve been diving deep into the psychomagic of Alejandro Jodorowsky’s The Holy Mountain. The textures and scenes in this surreal masterpiece speak directly to my soul. Its fearless blend of mysticism and rebellion totally mirrors the energy I’m pouring into my upcoming music. I swear, watching it always reminds me to break boundaries and trust the beautiful chaos of creation and truth.
Jenni from Austin asked: If your libido had a theme song, what would it be, and when would it play?
Hi Jenny,
“BOY CRAZY” is a song I wrote about this exact thing. It’s a perfect song for a manic horny summer where you just feel in love with the world, and every boy in it.
Mattie from Jersey City asked: What are some ways to combat that special kind of "bi anxiety" as a woman trying to ask a girl out? I'm polyamorous; I have a boyfriend, but I get way more nervous even attempting to flirt with a girl. I'm not trying to discount anyone's experience (can you tell that people have tried to tell me that this is not a thing?), but I don't think there would be scores of memes about this issue if it weren't a somewhat shared experience. TLDR: bi girl dating/ flirting anxiety feels real for me. Do you have any tips on how to deal with it?
Oh Mattie,
I want to validate that bi-anxiety flutter when asking out girls! I always tell myself: I’m happy to be turned down, but I never wanna die regretting a shot I didn’t take.
Flirting gives life meaning. Let go of those insecurities and just check the vibe. I love starting with a good conversation, with some solid eye contact and lots of lip biting. See if she returns it. Compliments never killed anybody, so if the moment is feeling cute, maybe suggest another evening just the 2 of you!
Remember, there’s billions of people on this planet, and you’re a fucking unique magical special creature. Party on!
Queen from Brussels asked: I used to be very dominant in the bedroom, but it originated from the fact that I'm masc. I felt like I had to be. Now I'm exploring my sub side but my wife misses that dominant part of me. Yet whenever I try to be dominant, it falls flat and feels wrong, I can never go all the way. How can I start finding my way back to that dominant energy in a way that's healthy?
Queen.
This is a great question for me, as a dom femme who also loves being a sub. The thing is, when you are the sub you are actually fully in control. Also, intimacy is always situational. You have to feel the vibe and explore. Communication sets a safe place to play. When your partner is giving you subtle signs that they want to, in the moment, submit to you, maybe try to explore that in smaller ways. Think about what they could do that REALLY would turn you on. You can try voicing that and see the reaction. When exploring with each other, you can’t force yourself to be something you’re not, but I always try to think about my bratty side. What do I really want? Then I whisper that to my partner. See what the reaction is.
Just remember, intimacy is different every moment of every day with every person. More than anything else just energetically dance with your partner and feel what feels good for both of you.
Timo from Portland, OR asked: I finally feel like I've healed, grown, and achieved enough stability that I'm ready for a partner again… while this country regresses into a terrifying kleptocratic-fascist celebration of cruelty. I am reminded of how nightmarish it is to fear for the safety of someone you love when economic, political, and societal breakdowns, plus climate catastrophe, are all serious realities to contend with. Is seeking a partner for the collapse a selfish desire, or is avoiding a partner depriving myself of the potential for a healthy, romantic connection [because of] my own fears about an unknown future?
Dear Timo,
Wanting someone by your side as the world feels like it’s tipping into chaos isn’t selfish. Life is inherently lonely, and only love can save us now. That was the entire inspiration behind my summer tour. I look around and there is so much chaos and hatred; aside from voting, communion with people you feel safe with, consensual physical touch, self-forgiveness, self-love, and loving compassion to other people is what I think is the answer in a time like this. Love is the most political act we can commit right now. Love yourself, love each other.
Find someone who you vibe with and get in a love bubble! That’s my advice.
Michael from Providence asked: Hi! I’m a 40-year-old queer man living with metastatic colon cancer. I’d love to have one big, beautiful, messy relationship before my time on the planet gives out. Do you have any advice for finding a brilliant person (male preferred, but I’m open) who isn’t scared of cancer and mortality?
Hey love,
I’d say this is a beautiful start, owning your story and your desires. Maybe try sharing your truth in queer and cancer-support spaces where vulnerability is the whole point. Put yourself out there at community events, support groups, or niche dating apps designed for you—you’ll find someone fierce enough to love every beautiful, messy moment with you. Remember, the right person won’t just accept your reality, they’ll celebrate your bravery and love the fuck out of you.
Wishing you a beautiful, loving, and messy summer, gorgeous.
Alayna from Australia asked: Hey queen, it’s diva-down modeover here. I just went through a break-up where neither of us wanted to do it, but my partner was in a mental health hellhole and not in the right mind for a relo. The chapter is closed for now, but maybe it will open again in the future when he’s better. My heart's broken to say the least. Any advice? Will we get back together, or do I need to move on?
