A Decade on Feeld: The moments that shaped us

For weeks my inbox has been filling up with strangers' desires. It's like being handed a stack of other people's diaries, and discovering that every single one is a love letter to being alive. Nobody submitted a story reluctantly. Every one of these arrived still warm, carefully crafted, shared with intention. What a treat.

Happy birthday, Feeld—ten gorgeous years. To celebrate, I asked for your wildest and most significant moments on (and off) the app. Reading them, I kept wondering about the parts you didn't send. Did the man who drove across the Netherlands to be pegged think about anything else on the drive home? Is the missing cat—found seven months later in a connection’s profile photo—still alive, still smug?

In ten years, Feeld has changed plenty: group chats, the lockdown havens where at least one person in this roundtable found sanctuary; the in-person socials; and most recently Reflections, the tool for self-discovery. This evolution has been guided by the desires of the community inside it, rather than appeasing those on the outside. And throughout it all, foundational values remain ever-present. 

That matters even more now than it did in 2016. We're in a bleak season of trad wives and rising conservative—let's say it, fascist—values reshaping our rights and intimate lives. But the stories below speak to a different reality, one that invites rather than silences, that welcomes expansion, exploration, acceptance, and the path less trodden. 

Our narrators aren’t trying to slot themselves into a normative space with the corners filed off. The space was made for the shape they already were, or has been an incubator for self-discovery. People came for a threesome and left with a best friend, came for a rebound and left with a wife, came to watch and ended up seen. 

I hope you relish each story as I have. And when you're done, go through your own decade. Find the story you'd submit if nobody you knew would read it. Then, ideally, let somebody (me) read it. 

Here’s to the adventures we’re yet to have—to the next ten years of loving and lusting.

Tell us your most memorable Feeld story…

“What started as a casual date turned into something neither of us expected. We met on Feeld, fell in love, and two years later we were married. The relationship changed the course of my life. I left my job, moved to a different country, and started a completely new chapter together with the woman who is now my wife. Looking back, that first date turned out to be one of the most important decisions I have ever made. So yes, Feeld can be a [wild] place—you might end up finding your future spouse! Not for a single second have I regretted it.”

“I hooked up with a former elementary school classmate 15 years after last sharing a classroom. It felt surreal, but so special.”

“Getting divorced after 10 years of sexless marriage, I had no idea what to expect in the dating scene. I didn't want a new partner, but I definitely wanted a memorable rebound. I met ‘Nate’ at 2 a.m. on Feeld. He knew exactly what to say. By 3 a.m. we were fucking in the back of his truck. He fucked me better in those 2.5 hours than my ex did [in] the entirety of our marriage. He knew how to read my body, and fucked me in ways I didn't know I needed. By the end, we realized neither of us even remembered each other's names, which is exactly what we were both looking for. Feeld helped me achieve passionate, synchronistic, anonymous, NSA [No Strings Attached] fucking. He was the best, dirtiest sex I've ever had, and I never have to see him again.”

“Met someone I now consider an incredible friend, we’re kindred spirits! Wouldn’t have happened if we hadn’t expressed our desire to explore our bi-curiousness!”

“I met this fine ass 6'4", beautiful white man. I’m a voluptuous, brown skin, trans woman and, although his profile said ‘heteroflexible,’ he was honest in saying that he had only ever been with cis women. Our first date was kind of wonky, but our second was one of the most intimate dates I’ve ever had. We spent hours playing music together in my living room. On the third date, things got more physical. In our exploration of each other, I could definitely feel that this was his first experience beyond the binary and also beyond the cis-terhood. I could feel his years of yearning, the girth of his desire was truly intoxicating. That man worshiped at the throne for as long as he could—until he realized the time and, like an imaginary bell had gone off, he rushed out into the night.”

“I actually met my fiancé on Feeld by accident! I was about to uninstall the app, and when I opened it I saw the most incredible person I've ever laid my eyes on. We started talking immediately, and now we can never uninstall the app, because we both love looking over our first connection together.”

“I connected with a person who was wearing a minion costume in one of her profile pictures. [I gave] her a presentation on what would happen if the minions actually stole the moon, while we had cocktails—she loved it, I loved her.”

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“I was invited to watch. I had connected with a couple on Feeld who were looking for a woman to join them. I told them I had never done anything like that before. They invited me over one evening to watch them have sex and decide, in the moment, whether I wanted to participate. I arrived at their flat with a bottle of red wine. We had a drink, and then they began to play with each other. I sat on a small sofa in the corner of the room, and watched. 

She lay on her back on the bed while he slowly stroked and kissed between her legs. It was gentle and unhurried. She was running her fingers through his hair, and occasionally looking down at his face as it disappeared between her thighs. I could feel heat building inside me. I finished my glass of wine, poured myself another, and began touching myself as I watched. He moved up to kiss her breasts, and then she shifted to take control. Climbing on top of him, she rode him with growing intensity. They were completely absorbed in each other, and I watched every movement from my corner of the room. After a while, she got up, walked over to me, and gently spread my legs. She touched me softly, and I decided to undo my jeans. He watched us intently from the bed. I had a powerful orgasm that left me speechless for several minutes. She returned to him, and I pulled my pants back up, said goodbye, and left.”

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“Found myself a Domme Daddy who had me restrained and needy within two days of chatting.”

“I once hooked up with a woman who was in an open relationship. She told me her boyfriend would be home around 7 p.m. and that her dates were usually over by then—but added that I was welcome to stay longer. While we were in bed, I suddenly heard the front door open and a loud, cheerful greeting from the hallway. Instead of disappearing under the covers, I got up—still wearing nothing but a condom—and met him at the bedroom door. He was standing there in full construction gear. We introduced ourselves. A shower later, the three of us ended up cuddling together in bed. Honestly, one of the most unexpectedly wholesome hookups I’ve ever had.”

“Once, I reached out to someone so classy and way out of my league. However, after we connected, we had so much in common to laugh and chat about. This platform gives you this feeling of being yourself without being judged.”

“Here I was on a Wednesday afternoon in Rotterdam, working from home and exploring on Feeld. I connected with this Russian girl in Nijmegen and within a few messages we were talking about pegging. We got so horny that I drove 100km to the other side of the country after work. Within minutes of meeting, she was fingering and licking my ass, giving me a prostate massage. She pegged me to ecstasy. One hell of an evening. Then I drove back home for midnight, ready to work from home again the next day. Absolutely worth it!”

“I matched with a guy who had my friend's missing cat in his profile pics! Ended up reuniting her with her cat that had been missing for 7 months! Feeld reunites pussies and passion 🖤🐈‍⬛”

“Z and I first met up at Prospect Park at the end of March 2022. He brought a bottle of wine and a blanket, and I told him about my ideal relationship structure and avoiding the relationship escalator. We were silly and danced and laughed. As we continued spending time together, we were intentional with maintaining our individuality, communicating our needs, setting realistic expectations, and asking for reassurance when we needed it. We steadily fell in love and he proposed to me three years later. We’re still wildly in love, fulfilled, and inspired by the relationship we so intentionally build.”

“Long story short, I got a curfew for having sex that was too good. We went for rounds and rounds, and when I got home at 3 a.m., my mom was waiting for me, looking angry and tired. To be clear, I've been an adult for years, but Asian parents tend to be overly protective. She feels obligated to stay up until I arrive home even if I ask her not to. She said she can’t stay up that late again, so I got an 11 p.m. curfew from then on.”

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“Co-domming from halfway across the world: I had met Mr. S on Feeld only six months previously, and he had somehow helped me explore parts of myself I didn't know existed. I had never been anything other than absolutely and completely submissive with him, but  recently felt the pull to be more dominant. I barely mentioned the thought to him but, intuitively, he’d already found a way for us to explore it. 

He texts to say that he’s with someone, and asks if I’d like to video call. ‘Do you want to co-dom her? She has a blindfold on,’ he writes. 

On the call, his face fills the screen before he flips the camera. A woman with long black hair and beautiful, full breasts is gently moving her hips against his shoe. Her head is in his lap, and she is rubbing her face against his crotch. Mr. S suddenly spits on her face. Spit drips down from her forehead, to her closed eyes, down to her cheeks, ruining her mascara along the way. 

‘Doesn't she look beautiful like this?’ He says, rubbing the mascara on her cheek. I nod. She does look beautiful like this. God, I really wish I could spit on the other side of her face. The tension between my legs builds. ‘Can you please spit on her again?’ I ask.

I miss whimpering for him, but watching someone else do it makes me wetter than I thought it would. I can't hold it back any longer… 

“We get on a call after a few hours, both of us eager to share what we felt… Realizing that there are others like me, that there are whole communities, resources, and conversations to engage with, has made me feel a little less… weird. But it hasn't been easy to unlearn everything we've been taught—and to constantly tell myself that it need not be the gospel truth. Discovering Feeld and building some beautiful connections has opened my mind up to the idea that there are a million different types of relationships, and only the people in those relationships can decide the rules, labels, and frameworks that are right for them. In fact, there are really no rules.”

Curious about the connections waiting for you? Start writing new stories on Feeld.